Open Hands…

Usually, by this time in the year, I sit still and ask God to speak to my heart and guide me with a focus for the next year. If you've been a follower and reader of my blogs, you know I use a word to focus my life, business, family, career, and relationships. This year... Continue Reading →

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Truth be told…

I have been holding my breath since March! I have been trying to see the glass half-full. Look for the silver lining. Wait for joy to come in the morning. Sense the peace in the midst of the storm and believe the sun will come out tomorrow! ...and it’s been hard!!! I’m sure I am... Continue Reading →

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Unpredictable Outcome…(excerpt)

The audacity of writing. I have felt strongly in my heart to write about my faith journey and its outcome. It's unconventional, but here are some hard truths which are embedded in my heart that I need to share. This is a small excerpt of what is a much lengthier chapter. It is my hope... Continue Reading →

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Painful Wins…

I know, you are probably thinking how is that possible, that something that you win can be painful. Well, it can. This year has proven to be one of the most challenging years of our entire Country. Corporately we have witnessed the loss of lives in tragic accidents, illnesses, and murders. We have lost icons,... Continue Reading →

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Decisions…

If you are anything like me…you are a list maker. I have a daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly list. It might be my OCD…yeah, I can admit that. And like anyone else, I had goals and plans for things to do this year! BUT guess what!  I might have checked off one major item and... Continue Reading →

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Digital Fatigue…

Several days ago I was asked to join some girlfriends on Zoom to "just talk" and I took a hard pass. I thought I'd never say this, but I am officially experiencing digital fatigue. Everything that I must access is currently found on the Information Highway otherwise known as the Internet. Internet use to be... Continue Reading →

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I’m still brown.

I have come to realize that even if I met all of the markers of success, i.e., education, wealth,  and housing. I am still brown. I was raised in The Bronx, NY. Specifically, the Soundview Housing Projects. My mom was a dedicated homemaker, and my father a blue-collar worker.  I attended public schools. As an... Continue Reading →

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Seek Therapy

Six months of quarantine exposed a million little cracks that, if left unattended, would shatter...it would shatter our family. Awkwardly sitting together in our first virtual session... Family therapy. Looking at a screen trying to communicate why we are here. How did we get here? It was grueling! It required us to hear words spoken of... Continue Reading →

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I dare to hope!

Exhausted... Yup! These past few weeks, I have felt nothing but emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion. I avoided the news channels for a few weeks, but my social media posts seemed to keep me connected to all the current news and all the anxiety we are experiencing in our neighborhoods, state, and world. It is... Continue Reading →

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The weight of it all was too much…

 It was calming down and then BAM! We get hit with a racial pandemic! Here we are trying to navigate masks, social distancing, slow integration. All the new normals that have been imposed upon us and now the most heinous of prejudices “RACE.” This, my friend, is no new occurrence. It’s the way we, the... Continue Reading →

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Living your life…

I thought I knew what I truly wanted, but when I got it I realized I didn’t want it at all. I was in love with the illusion of what it could be and not the reality of what it truly was. Have you found yourself yearning, fantasizing, idealizing a life, a job, a relationship,... Continue Reading →

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It is time to ….pivot!

This global quarantine has exposed the best and worst of us. Who will survive? Who will thrive? I spent the first three months submitted to focused stillness- then BAM! The physical/social distancing kicked in...and I struggled!! You see, the first three months were my decisions, my choices, my focus.  When the self - distancing was... Continue Reading →

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1, 8, 3 – They Say…

I was reluctant at first.  Another quiz?  Another label? Aye...really...but I did it. I took the Enneagram Test. I subjected myself to the algorithms that would accurately describe in detail my personality type.  Did I learn anything new?  Nah, not really. What I did learn is the test revealed that I apparently do live in... Continue Reading →

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A Seat at my table…

During this physical distancing time, I have re-organized my closets, my dresser, the kitchen cabinets, my office desk, and the bookshelves. I have sorted in stacks of what I will keep, donate, and throw away. So it occurred to me, what in my relationships do I need to re-organize? How am I relating to the... Continue Reading →

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I thought I was done…

Three years and over 100  blog posts, I thought I had written enough, said enough, encouraged enough, brought enough insight, and it was time to wrap my blog in a beautiful, pretty bow. I didn't believe that my weekly blogging had many legs left, and this was going to be my last post. BUT GOD!... Continue Reading →

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Lessons during Quarantine…

Letting go requires self-control. Read that again...slowly. By definition, self-control requires -restraint exercised over one's own impulses, emotions, or desires. When we let something go, when we release control of all things, self-control must take front and center.  In our human nature, when we let things go, we panic, fear sets in, and we immediately... Continue Reading →

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You are safe…

The other day I read the funniest tweet ever... “been quarantined with my wife for four weeks now. At this point, I have more risk of getting killed by her than by a crummy virus."  I laughed out loud and shared it with my friends and especially my husband. I couldn’t help but think how... Continue Reading →

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A few questions…

Who will we be when all of this is said and done? An interesting season in our world.  Forcing us to look at each other and deal with our families, our finances, and our environment. Requiring us to pay attention to the details. I have pondered several questions and wanted to share them with you... Continue Reading →

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Coronavirus COVID19

Plans on hold Dreams deferred —— We are forced to do what so many have complained they never have the time to do Have dinners at home Walks in the park Talk with our kids Laugh with our spouses Call our friends Catch up on our favorite TV shows Read our favorite books Sleep more... Continue Reading →

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Sixteen Months in my life…

  I logged on and there I was. A virtual classroom with attorneys and legal counsel from all around the world. Here I was a housewife/mom/blogger/former podcast host gearing up to learn and take in as much information as I could possibly understand about the LAW!! Who was I kidding? This was going to prove... Continue Reading →

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Coincidence…I think not!

Coincidence - the occurrence of events that happen at the same time by accident but seem to have some connection. (Merriam-Webster) Have you ever thought and said to yourself, wow, that’s such a funny coincidence? Oh my goodness, how crazy is that? Or that can’t be possible? What are the chances? All comments that connect to what we believe... Continue Reading →

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I am no longer asking for permission…

All my life, I've made measured decisions. Is this a good idea?  Will it be disrespectful?  Will I hurt someone's feelings?  Will I be judged? Will they stop being my friend?  Am I talented enough? Will I be pretty enough?  Will I be smart enough?  Will I be respected?  Will they accept me? As I've... Continue Reading →

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Now what…

Here it is -  16 months, of school, completed and now what? I found myself experiencing a real sense of anxiety. I normally am not one to get anxious.  I'm pretty laid back about things. I wait and pray and trust. Yet I found myself panicking and fretting and worrying about what is next?  What was... Continue Reading →

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The price of silence…

It seemed so innocent. A post...I left a comment and then... BANG!!!   Just like that, I was entangled in a thread that left my head spinning.  I offered what I thought was an educated opposing comment to something a relative posted. What I didn't know at that moment, that they were not inviting opposing... Continue Reading →

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It’s the little things…that adds up!

Dearest Robert, Tomorrow, February 5th, we will celebrate our 26th wedding anniversary.  The moment we cried (well I think you cried more than I did) and said I do to each other. And with that being said I want to say the following... Thank you for asking me to be your wife. Thank you for... Continue Reading →

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Garage Sale…

“Don’t accumulate possessions; accumulate experiences - Mark Batterson Have you walked up to a garage sale or estate sale and wondered how much the homeowner must have "loved" these items, and now here they are laid out on a table going for just a few bucks?  I often wonder did these things bring joy, love,... Continue Reading →

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Set three goals…

I challenge you!!! Set three goals for the next year! One that is attainable One that requires a bit of work One that is so out of your reach will take a miracle!!! I challenge everyone to put their faith to the test and see what GOD can do through you! I love writing goals... Continue Reading →

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Stillness…

 We are surrounded by so much noise that we forget what the sound of silence feels like! As this season of busyness approaches it’s important to take a moment, day, whatever you can spare and center yourself. The holidays can be emotionally and physically draining.  Filled with exhilaration or unimaginable sadness for others. Be... Continue Reading →

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Six Weddings…

This was the year of weddings! We received six wedding invitations of which we were only able to attend three.  It seemed that each time I opened my mailbox, there was another engagement, save the date and wedding invite. We take our attendance at weddings very seriously.  Someone very wise once said, when you commit... Continue Reading →

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My soul counts…

How do I keep my faith when those representing Christianity keep failing me!!!!! Who are we? What have we become? A divisive people fighting each other over politics A divisive people arguing over moral rights A divisive people judging the life of one another A divisive people that tear each other down A divisive people... Continue Reading →

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It made​ me think…twice

This past weekend I had a moment to watch a documentary on Netflix that made me think twice. "Inside Bill's Brain: Decoding Bill Gates" - I know, I know most cynics will say what can one of the richest men in the world teach me that his money has not solved for him. Well...compassion.  ... Continue Reading →

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It’s really that simple…

Creating space through order! We were a lot of kids; at one given time, there were 9 of us living in a three-bedroom apartment with one bathroom! My mom was the queen of order and cleanliness. There were too many of us, and she hated the bugs that would come with uncleanliness! So! I learned... Continue Reading →

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Patience…

  Patience - The capacity, habit, or fact of being patient. Patient - bearing pains or trials calmly or without complaint; manifesting forbearance under provocation or strain; steadfast despite opposition, difficulty, or adversity. OUCH!!!!! Here I thought I am patient.  WELL, after reading these definitions, I realized I have a LONG way to go to... Continue Reading →

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Be teachable…

This week I had the privilege of sitting with some amazing women.  They all shared their incredible journeys.  They were poignant, heartfelt stories, others were uplifting and encouraging. One theme seems to run through all of the conversations...be teachable.  Each one of them imparted some small nugget that left me filled, thinking, and challenged. I... Continue Reading →

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Where are the instructions…to parenting?

It was our recent trip to the country's largest IKEA that prompted this blog! It was our first time walking through this monstrosity of a home goods store. We didn't think we were going to buy anything, we just wanted to walk around, but we grabbed a bag. By the time we got to the... Continue Reading →

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What I know for sure…

You have my heart completely! Faith... This past week I underwent several medical tests. I’ll spare you the gory details, but it places things into perspective -that’s for sure! As I recovered and sat quietly in my bedroom. I took that the time to reflect on things I know to be true, and I wanted... Continue Reading →

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Mommyhood…

I was raised in a home where there was a full-time stay at home mom.  My mom's sole focus and job were raising all seven children. She woke up early, made us breakfast and when we came home from school, there was a snack waiting.  The smells of dinner cooking would permeate the apartment. She... Continue Reading →

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Women can be….well… read on…

So, here I was feeling really good about myself.  Walking with a pep in my step and singing along with the radio in the car. I was HAPPY! It had been a summer of several health challenges, in which at this point, I was overcoming, and I had just completed my third semester of law... Continue Reading →

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Brokenness walked into my house…

This summer, a few things occurred that stopped me dead in my tracks and forced me to face the reality that lives all around us. Her name is Sarah*. A phone call from our son asking if a friend could sleepover.  By sheer instinct, I knew the omission of the pronoun led me to the... Continue Reading →

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My words…have traveled​!

On May 8, 2017, I posted my very first blog.  Little did I know that those words would travel the world.  My intention for the blog is to inspire, educate, and entertain.  Have I achieved that these past two years, I would hope so?  I desire to always leave the reader with a new perspective.... Continue Reading →

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Pause

Time to pause Time to reflect Time to read more Time to sleep more Time to slow down Time to sit still Time to look up and give thanks Take time to live more, laugh more, and show up! Be kind to yourself Be good to others 'Til August -Annette Ortiz Mata  

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They belong to me…

This week I celebrate my 53rd birthday. I always take this time to reflect on where I've been, where I am, and where I am going. I reflect on the goodness and mercy of God in my life I reflect on the life lived out loud in joy and in sorrow. I reflect on the enormous... Continue Reading →

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Hold him…

There I was sitting across from my son getting ready to be as vulnerable as possible, not truly knowing how he would receive my heart.  And so, I leaped! I was nervous, but I needed him to know of my inner sorrow so that I could heal our brokenness.  And then it happened...healing and wholeness. We... Continue Reading →

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“We need all your birth certificates”, he said. “All your siblings, it’s the only way to disperse the inheritance”. I proceeded to collect all the birth certificates and something was off. Six birth certificates and there it was. One of these was not like the other, and that other was mine. I was staring at... Continue Reading →

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My heart grew twice…

    Paul was barely a few days old.  Due to being a premie, he was not allowed to be out of the NICU for very long, and I wanted Rob to meet and hold his baby brother. As I gently placed Paul in Rob’s arms, I asked him, “how do you feel?” and immediately he said, “my... Continue Reading →

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Dear God…forgive us!

Forgive our indifference Forgive our selfishness Forgive our hatred Forgive our anger Forgive our racism Forgive our bigotry Forgive our unbelief Forgive our lack of empathy Forgive our lack of tolerance Forgive our lack of compassion Forgive our violence Forgive our fighting Forgive our division Forgive our ruthlessness Forgive our lack of love Forgive our... Continue Reading →

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Two weeks of moments…

So! These past few weeks have been filled with activities.  Weddings, galas, bridal showers, night out w/friends, finals, finishing up my second semester of Law School and celebrating Easter.  All in the past TWO weeks!  I get to catch my breath for about a week or so, and I intend to get a physical, meet... Continue Reading →

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This weekend I was in a room full of love and celebration, and the next day a room full of judgment and excess. I belonged in both rooms.   It was a weekend of bipartisanship, literally. I sat in awe that I had come so far.  A little Puerto Rican girl from The Bronx was seated... Continue Reading →

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Three months later…how’s it going?

  It's no secret that I am a list keeper, journal writer, and avid reader.  How I manage to do all three is a question I am not sure I can answer.  I guess you have to decide how much you want to make time for it, and if it brings you joy, aka "Marie... Continue Reading →

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School Scandal? New…well?

These past few weeks, our news and twitter feeds have been inundated with the school scandal/entrance scam.  Parents going the "extra mile" to assure their child is guaranteed a seat in the most elite schools around the country. This, my friend, is nothing NEW. I think the most egregious detail is the "alleged fraud" that the... Continue Reading →

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Why this hurts…

Several years ago I attended a TedTalk style event featuring Cristina Saralegui, otherwise known as the Latina Oprah. She was having a conversation about the state of Latinos on Television and the power and the importance of her show, although on a Latino Network (Univision) she was experiencing great crossover success with her guests and audience.... Continue Reading →

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What’s the difference between Jordyn Woods and me?

Answer: NOTHING! This past week the internet exploded. The interview on Red Table Talk with Jada Pinkett Smith and Jordyn Woods almost shut it down. Our salacious need to know the intimate, hurtful details of the indiscretions of a 21-year-old became breaking news...this is the state of our society, sadly. I try my best to... Continue Reading →

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When stillness leads to shock and awe…

Have you ever sat still enough to contemplate where life has brought you? What your decisions have taught you? How life is working out for you?  Have you considered the relationships in your life?  Have you sat still enough to think about the world, nation, and community around you? I try my very best to... Continue Reading →

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Free-Falling…​.

Have you ever felt like you are free-falling? Everything you are trying to get done is coming undone. Your relationships are broken, your finances are in chaos, and your mind is racing and your nights are sleepless, and you feel all alone. Well, guess what, you are not alone. By nature of being nurturers, we... Continue Reading →

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Just be…yourself!

Just be... In this generation of striving and being and creating, we’ve lost the art of just being. Being ourselves, not a copy of someone else. We have fallen into the vicious trap of trying to be, act, look, talk, and walk like someone else. When I was younger, I was a victim of that... Continue Reading →

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ONE MORE SLEEP…

One more sleep and I will face one of my biggest fears! Flying internationally... ALONE! An 11-hour flight with no one to tell me "it’s going to be okay," except maybe a stranger whose hand I may grab (I’ve done that once before). Was the excitement of seeing so many beautiful things (including Megan Markle’s wedding... Continue Reading →

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What lives in the Soul of A Woman?

My desires My dreams My regrets My fears My loves My heartache  My plans My wishes My anger My determination  My sorrow My laughter My strength  My eternal hope... What lives in yours? Lessons: Remember to guard your heart... For where your treasure is, there your heart will be. (Matthew 6:21) "Til Tuesday

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This week…

This week was difficult to sit and write. First, the shootings that shook a community that was confident in their safety. The senseless shooting that took innocent lives. The senseless shooting that changed the reality of every family that lost a loved one The senseless shooting that shook me to my core, in not knowing... Continue Reading →

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What’s on your Thanksgiving Menu?

Each year I plan my Thanksgiving Menu. I figure out how many guests and how much food I’ll need to prepare and purchase. I am incredibly meticulous with details and presentation because I want my guests to feel welcomed, loved, satisfied and thankful! As I thought about this process, I thought about what is on... Continue Reading →

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Have you cried today?

When all you can do is cry - that’s ok! This year I cried a lot. There were tears of joy There were tears of deep sorrow There were tears of relief  There's were tears of happiness  There were tears of despair There were tears in laughter  There were tears of solace Crying is a... Continue Reading →

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“If only…”

Are you content? Do you feel - satisfied, pleased, gratified, fulfilled, happy, cheerful, glad; unworried, untroubled, at ease, at peace, tranquil, serene? So you accomplish all your goals.  You check all your to-dos and sit back say..and then what?  Were you satisfied?  Did it meet all your expectations?  Did you get out of it all... Continue Reading →

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How did we get here so fast?

Honestly, how did we get to the beginning of the end of this year!!! It's around this time that I always sit and reflect on this past year.  The ups, the downs.  The dreams realized.  The hopes deferred.  The goals checked off.  The addition of new goals.  The losses and the gains. This year came... Continue Reading →

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Are you a spectator or participant….in your life?

Your immediate response may be, I am a participant? It's my life I have to do me!  What kind of question is that?   Well, after several interesting conversations I concluded that some folks are spectators in their own lives.  They don't participate. They just do just enough to get through the day and meet their... Continue Reading →

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I needed it to be a cold blue…

I sat and cried. I thought I was okay, but I wasn’t.  The night before, I was taking my evening stroll and lectured my husband, that if anything should come back, that's questionable, I didn’t want anyone to overact. That if my tests were to prove something malignant, I wanted everyone to be strong. Yet,... Continue Reading →

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