What does waiting feel like to you? We wait in lines We wait in cars We wait in trains, buses, street corners We wait on decisions We wait on the news We wait on results We wait for breakfast, lunch, and dinner We wait for plans to be made Every moment of our day we … More Are you on pause?
I often wondered how many of us are walking around with shards in our hearts that we simply can’t talk about because it just hurts too much. I understand that pain. I am learning to soften the scars left behind by the shards that ripped through my heart. I am processing the pain I have … More Shards…
During this physical distancing time, I have re-organized my closets, my dresser, the kitchen cabinets, my office desk, and the bookshelves. I have sorted in stacks of what I will keep, donate, and throw away. So it occurred to me, what in my relationships do I need to re-organize? How am I relating to the … More A Seat at my table…
Taking a moment to gather my thoughts. You do the same. ’Til Tuesday
Honestly, how did we get to the beginning of the end of this year!!! It’s around this time that I always sit and reflect on this past year. The ups, the downs. The dreams realized. The hopes deferred. The goals checked off. The addition of new goals. The losses and the gains. This year came … More How did we get here so fast?
Your immediate response may be, I am a participant? It’s my life I have to do me! What kind of question is that? Well, after several interesting conversations I concluded that some folks are spectators in their own lives. They don’t participate. They just do just enough to get through the day and meet their … More Are you a spectator or participant….in your life?
I sat and cried. I thought I was okay, but I wasn’t. The night before, I was taking my evening stroll and lectured my husband, that if anything should come back, that’s questionable, I didn’t want anyone to overact. That if my tests were to prove something malignant, I wanted everyone to be strong. Yet, … More I needed it to be a cold blue…
Depression: “feelings of severe despondency and dejection.” I was depressed, and I didn’t even know it. I never liked the word “depressed.” I said I was at peace, but I was actually numb – The hurt was so grave I didn’t know what else to do but to mask it with what I called peace, … More Take off the mask…
“Crazy Faith! Don’t just pray about it, ACT ON IT! Normal begets normal. Crazy begets crazy!” – Mark Batterson, Draw the Circle So I decided to go back to school after 25 years!!! Yup, 25 years since I earned my Bachelor of Arts. Not only did I choose to return to obtain a Masters Degree, but … More Crazy Faith!
These past few weeks I have reflected deeply on one simple theme – Am I living ready? It seems we live ready for the next job, the next relationship, the next opportunity to seize the moment. We want to take on the world, become the next big star, influencer, motivator. We live ready to … More Living Ready…
We met 25 years ago. I was broken, and he was whole. We married and built a life together that was nothing but unconventional. Through it all he is consistent. His character is consistent His temper is consistent His commitment to our family is consistent When we met, I lived in New York City, … More The Measure of a Man
The past few weeks I have sat in several conversations where someone said, “I need to let it go” or “I’m letting it go”… it struck me that there is a marked difference in these words along with their actions and all I kept thinking was “save yourself.” “Letting go,” is a slow and sometimes … More Save Yourself
So! It’s my birthday! Yup, that time again to reflect! Shed some tears, laugh out loud and walk in silence. Growing older has been quite the journey for me. Aging, well that is another matter altogether – Here are some of the lessons I’ve learned along the way. Listen Love Cry Laugh out Loud without … More This is me…
You are broken, and I can’t fix you You are broken, and I will not hide it You are broken, and I must release you You are broken, and I will always love you You are broken and I accept it You are broken, and I will wait You are broken, and I have faith The … More Love…it sometimes hurts.
The call came in. My father had a heart attack and is intensive care. I sit still and wait. I sit still and process what is before me. Do I love or do I walk away Do I choose to remember how he protected me or do I remember how he treated my mom? Do … More Do I call?
I have attended several weddings in the past months, and one ceremony had a poignant moment. They asked specific people to surround them. They stood up, walked up to the couple, surrounded them, and prayed over them, blessing their marriage. These were their mentors. Folks that will keep them accountable in marriage. Now that’s a … More Just keep polishing…
It was a challenge, but I did it… I unplugged from EVERYTHING for seven whole days! And by everything I mean, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, WordPress, Talk Radio (in my car) and TV! Yup, even TV. It was the most rewarding and freeing feeling I have experienced in a long time. Think about it. Twitter … More You are challenged!
I currently am walking through the long corridor of Menopause! I’ve found a couple of doors along the way I refuse to open and others that I couldn’t help but open, walk in, take a seat and stay for a while! In those rooms, I’ve learned lessons that have shaken me to the core and … More Doors…
Complicity the state of being an accomplice; partnership or involvement in wrongdoing: complicity in a crime. This blog became bigger than me than my opinions, experiences or conversations. I was going through a personal experience realizing that I would be complicit in the neglect of someone I love if I did not speak up. Hence, this … More Complicit…Are you?
The year was 1966. On April 3, a baby girl was born on the Lower East Side, the firstborn for Maria. One month later on May 29 of the same year, another baby girl was born in the Bronx, the youngest child of Lydia. These two baby girls had no idea their lives would cross … More “Silent Witness”