What does waiting feel like to you? We wait in lines We wait in cars We wait in trains, buses, street corners We wait on decisions We wait on the news We wait on results We wait for breakfast, lunch, and dinner We wait for plans to be made Every moment of our day we … More Are you on pause?
Fragrance is a sweet or delicate odor (as of fresh flowers, pine trees, or perfume) and aroma. So what’s your fragrance? What lingers when you leave the room? How will you be remembered in a world where our last thoughts are memorialized on Twitter, the perfect snapshot uploaded on Instagram, our latest message promoted on … More What’s your life fragrance?
I often wondered how many of us are walking around with shards in our hearts that we simply can’t talk about because it just hurts too much. I understand that pain. I am learning to soften the scars left behind by the shards that ripped through my heart. I am processing the pain I have … More Shards…
Several days ago I was asked to join some girlfriends on Zoom to “just talk” and I took a hard pass. I thought I’d never say this, but I am officially experiencing digital fatigue. Everything that I must access is currently found on the Information Highway otherwise known as the Internet. Internet use to be … More Digital Fatigue…
During this physical distancing time, I have re-organized my closets, my dresser, the kitchen cabinets, my office desk, and the bookshelves. I have sorted in stacks of what I will keep, donate, and throw away. So it occurred to me, what in my relationships do I need to re-organize? How am I relating to the … More A Seat at my table…
You have my heart completely! Faith… This past week I underwent several medical tests. I’ll spare you the gory details, but it places things into perspective -that’s for sure! As I recovered and sat quietly in my bedroom. I took that the time to reflect on things I know to be true, and I wanted … More What I know for sure…
Each year I plan my Thanksgiving Menu. I figure out how many guests and how much food I’ll need to prepare and purchase. I am incredibly meticulous with details and presentation because I want my guests to feel welcomed, loved, satisfied and thankful! As I thought about this process, I thought about what is on … More What’s on your Thanksgiving Menu?
This week it happened to me! At the beginning of every year, I write my heart’s desire, goals for myself for that particular year. This year was no different. The year of New came with A LOT of new. Some wished for and others definitely not asked for, yet it was all new. I still … More When what you pray for comes packaged differently? What do you do?
Honestly, how did we get to the beginning of the end of this year!!! It’s around this time that I always sit and reflect on this past year. The ups, the downs. The dreams realized. The hopes deferred. The goals checked off. The addition of new goals. The losses and the gains. This year came … More How did we get here so fast?
Your immediate response may be, I am a participant? It’s my life I have to do me! What kind of question is that? Well, after several interesting conversations I concluded that some folks are spectators in their own lives. They don’t participate. They just do just enough to get through the day and meet their … More Are you a spectator or participant….in your life?
I sat and cried. I thought I was okay, but I wasn’t. The night before, I was taking my evening stroll and lectured my husband, that if anything should come back, that’s questionable, I didn’t want anyone to overact. That if my tests were to prove something malignant, I wanted everyone to be strong. Yet, … More I needed it to be a cold blue…
Depression: “feelings of severe despondency and dejection.” I was depressed, and I didn’t even know it. I never liked the word “depressed.” I said I was at peace, but I was actually numb – The hurt was so grave I didn’t know what else to do but to mask it with what I called peace, … More Take off the mask…
We met 25 years ago. I was broken, and he was whole. We married and built a life together that was nothing but unconventional. Through it all he is consistent. His character is consistent His temper is consistent His commitment to our family is consistent When we met, I lived in New York City, … More The Measure of a Man
As I assess these past six months, I realized I need to reassess my goals, my dreams, my desires. With the shift of the winds in our lives it obligates us to shift our goals, our relationships, our thoughts. Often we placed things in stone that isn’t supposed to be set in stone, and we … More It’s the half-way point, how are you doing?
So! It’s my birthday! Yup, that time again to reflect! Shed some tears, laugh out loud and walk in silence. Growing older has been quite the journey for me. Aging, well that is another matter altogether – Here are some of the lessons I’ve learned along the way. Listen Love Cry Laugh out Loud without … More This is me…
How do I inspire when it’s me that needs to BE inspired. It’s hard to write when your life is experiencing chaos and turmoil. It’s hard to write when all you want to do is lay in bed and sleep until your trial is over. It’s hard to write when what you want to say … More Just write…
You are broken, and I can’t fix you You are broken, and I will not hide it You are broken, and I must release you You are broken, and I will always love you You are broken and I accept it You are broken, and I will wait You are broken, and I have faith The … More Love…it sometimes hurts.
The call came in. My father had a heart attack and is intensive care. I sit still and wait. I sit still and process what is before me. Do I love or do I walk away Do I choose to remember how he protected me or do I remember how he treated my mom? Do … More Do I call?
I have attended several weddings in the past months, and one ceremony had a poignant moment. They asked specific people to surround them. They stood up, walked up to the couple, surrounded them, and prayed over them, blessing their marriage. These were their mentors. Folks that will keep them accountable in marriage. Now that’s a … More Just keep polishing…
I have always felt proud of being a Latina. Never once was I embarrassed by my heritage. Until… Growing up in the projects among low-income Hispanics, African Americans, Irish, and Jewish families we really didn’t see or feel different. We were one community. We celebrated our color, hair (well on some days), our food, our … More Being Latina !!