Stop saying …

WOMEN CAN HAVE IT ALL!!! This blog is a declaration! We must stop saying that women can have it all.  I have never been more disappointed by any statement in my life.  If we choose to be a wife, mother, professional, etc., having it all comes at a price. It is my personal experience that … More Stop saying …

When stillness leads to shock and awe…

Have you ever sat still enough to contemplate where life has brought you? What your decisions have taught you? How life is working out for you?  Have you considered the relationships in your life?  Have you sat still enough to think about the world, nation, and community around you? I try my very best to … More When stillness leads to shock and awe…

Just when you think no one is watching…they are.

She placed my life in perspective with these words. “…I beg to differ… It might not have been a strong year in the ways you may have hoped for it to be strong, but you and Tio damn sure have become stronger. You chose to walk in forgiveness with a family that treated you terribly … More Just when you think no one is watching…they are.

Are you a spectator or participant….in your life?

Your immediate response may be, I am a participant? It’s my life I have to do me!  What kind of question is that?   Well, after several interesting conversations I concluded that some folks are spectators in their own lives.  They don’t participate. They just do just enough to get through the day and meet their … More Are you a spectator or participant….in your life?

I needed it to be a cold blue…

I sat and cried. I thought I was okay, but I wasn’t.  The night before, I was taking my evening stroll and lectured my husband, that if anything should come back, that’s questionable, I didn’t want anyone to overact. That if my tests were to prove something malignant, I wanted everyone to be strong. Yet, … More I needed it to be a cold blue…

Just keep polishing…

I have attended several weddings in the past months, and one ceremony had a poignant moment. They asked specific people to surround them.   They stood up, walked up to the couple, surrounded them, and prayed over them, blessing their marriage. These were their mentors.  Folks that will keep them accountable in marriage. Now that’s a … More Just keep polishing…

Being Latina !!

I have always felt proud of being a Latina. Never once was I embarrassed by my heritage. Until… Growing up in the projects among low-income Hispanics, African Americans, Irish, and Jewish families we really didn’t see or feel different. We were one community. We celebrated our color, hair (well on some days), our food, our … More Being Latina !!

You are challenged!

It was a challenge, but I did it… I unplugged from EVERYTHING for seven whole days! And by everything I mean, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, WordPress, Talk Radio (in my car) and TV! Yup, even TV. It was the most rewarding and freeing feeling I have experienced in a long time. Think about it. Twitter … More You are challenged!

Doors…​

I currently am walking through the long corridor of Menopause! I’ve found a couple of doors along the way I refuse to open and others that I couldn’t help but open, walk in, take a seat and stay for a while! In those rooms, I’ve learned lessons that have shaken me to the core and … More Doors…​

Just lay down!

Why do women struggle with self-care? Why do we think if we lay down, take a nap, close off the noise we are neglectful. Why do we think that if we tell our kids I need some time alone, we are bad moms? If we say to our friends I need some space, we are … More Just lay down!

What does your wife do??…Are you kidding me!!

Hmmm, this question was asked not too long ago and quite frankly if a woman is not working outside of their home the world does not recognize their worth… I’m incredibly busy…. I own and oversee two businesses. I host an internet talk show once a week. I write a blog once a week. I … More What does your wife do??…Are you kidding me!!