A few days ago, I was having a very thoughtful conversation with someone who, when I asked if they ever went “back home”  to visit their family, immediately replied, “No. I divorced myself from that pain. I cut those soul ties that are in my past. I live in the here and now.”  I was struck by how much I needed to hear those words. 

What are soul ties, you ask?
Soul ties are believed to be spiritual and emotional connections between individuals (romantic or platonic). I would add places and things!

She had no idea the impact those words would have on me. It struck me how much I held on to my past. I imagine we all do it because it informs our psyche to understand who we are and why we do the things we do. 

Later that evening, I sat with those words, and I felt an incredible sense of guilt that I, too, needed to divorce myself from pain, past relationships, and past experiences and cut soul ties because, as a beautiful quote that has circled the internet says, “people know a version of you that no longer exists,” and that is the truth.

Who I was is -no longer who I am.
The relationships I had -I no longer foster
Where I lived is no longer where I am from.

Yet, when we hold on to unhealthy ties, we do not allow the best to be manifested in our lives. 

I understood at that moment that no matter how much I chose to romanticize people and places, they were no longer a part of my life, and they no longer could make the climb or go the distance. They no longer served me.

If God removes you from a particular person, place, or thing, it is not wise for us to go back to pick up that relationship, visit that place, or take that thing. You must divorce and cut the soul ties to all of it.

I am challenging myself to accept that those people, places, and things are not for me and of me anymore and it’s okay.
Let’s, together, cut the ties that are weighing us down. 

Let your life soar!