It’s okay to change your mind…

“Changing your mind does not mean you’re unstable. It just means what you thought was going to work for you, isn't going to work at all” (Annette) A few weeks ago, this thought came to me, and I realized we often feel bad for changing our minds, not for ourselves, but the guilt of the... Continue Reading →

He said, “we have a beautiful life….” I didn’t understand....until I did. All I knew was my heart was broken; how can that be called a beautiful life. I let the words settle until the realization of what he was saying became greater than my simple understanding. Our life is beautiful- Every test  Every trial... Continue Reading →

Shards…

I often wondered how many of us are walking around with shards in our hearts that we simply can’t talk about because it just hurts too much. I understand that pain. I am learning to soften the scars left behind by the shards that ripped through my heart. I am processing the pain I have... Continue Reading →

What Comfort looks life…

Comfort comes in many ways Comfort comes in silence Comfort comes in flowers Comfort comes in food Comfort comes in lyrics Comfort comes in conversations Comfort comes in breathing Someone once told me as long as we are alive everything and everyone is redeemable. I take comfort in those words. ----------

SCARS

I have a few physical scars. Some obvious to the naked eye, others covered by cloth. I have many more scars that are unseen. I call them soul scars. Little divots that have keloid. I feel them from time to time. Some scars almost broke me into a million pieces. Scars that ripped so deep... Continue Reading →

Open Hands…

Usually, by this time in the year, I sit still and ask God to speak to my heart and guide me with a focus for the next year. If you've been a follower and reader of my blogs, you know I use a word to focus my life, business, family, career, and relationships. This year... Continue Reading →

Truth be told…

I have been holding my breath since March! I have been trying to see the glass half-full. Look for the silver lining. Wait for joy to come in the morning. Sense the peace in the midst of the storm and believe the sun will come out tomorrow! ...and it’s been hard!!! I’m sure I am... Continue Reading →

Painful Wins…

I know, you are probably thinking how is that possible, that something that you win can be painful. Well, it can. This year has proven to be one of the most challenging years of our entire Country. Corporately we have witnessed the loss of lives in tragic accidents, illnesses, and murders. We have lost icons,... Continue Reading →

Decisions…

If you are anything like me…you are a list maker. I have a daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly list. It might be my OCD…yeah, I can admit that. And like anyone else, I had goals and plans for things to do this year! BUT guess what!  I might have checked off one major item and... Continue Reading →

I’m still brown.

I have come to realize that even if I met all of the markers of success, i.e., education, wealth,  and housing. I am still brown. I was raised in The Bronx, NY. Specifically, the Soundview Housing Projects. My mom was a dedicated homemaker, and my father a blue-collar worker.  I attended public schools. As an... Continue Reading →

Seek Therapy

Six months of quarantine exposed a million little cracks that, if left unattended, would shatter...it would shatter our family. Awkwardly sitting together in our first virtual session... Family therapy. Looking at a screen trying to communicate why we are here. How did we get here? It was grueling! It required us to hear words spoken of... Continue Reading →

I dare to hope!

Exhausted... Yup! These past few weeks, I have felt nothing but emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion. I avoided the news channels for a few weeks, but my social media posts seemed to keep me connected to all the current news and all the anxiety we are experiencing in our neighborhoods, state, and world. It is... Continue Reading →

Living your life…

I thought I knew what I truly wanted, but when I got it I realized I didn’t want it at all. I was in love with the illusion of what it could be and not the reality of what it truly was. Have you found yourself yearning, fantasizing, idealizing a life, a job, a relationship,... Continue Reading →

It is time to ….pivot!

This global quarantine has exposed the best and worst of us. Who will survive? Who will thrive? I spent the first three months submitted to focused stillness- then BAM! The physical/social distancing kicked in...and I struggled!! You see, the first three months were my decisions, my choices, my focus.  When the self - distancing was... Continue Reading →

1, 8, 3 – They Say…

I was reluctant at first.  Another quiz?  Another label? Aye...really...but I did it. I took the Enneagram Test. I subjected myself to the algorithms that would accurately describe in detail my personality type.  Did I learn anything new?  Nah, not really. What I did learn is the test revealed that I apparently do live in... Continue Reading →

A Seat at my table…

During this physical distancing time, I have re-organized my closets, my dresser, the kitchen cabinets, my office desk, and the bookshelves. I have sorted in stacks of what I will keep, donate, and throw away. So it occurred to me, what in my relationships do I need to re-organize? How am I relating to the... Continue Reading →

I thought I was done…

Three years and over 100  blog posts, I thought I had written enough, said enough, encouraged enough, brought enough insight, and it was time to wrap my blog in a beautiful, pretty bow. I didn't believe that my weekly blogging had many legs left, and this was going to be my last post. BUT GOD!... Continue Reading →

Lessons during Quarantine…

Letting go requires self-control. Read that again...slowly. By definition, self-control requires -restraint exercised over one's own impulses, emotions, or desires. When we let something go, when we release control of all things, self-control must take front and center.  In our human nature, when we let things go, we panic, fear sets in, and we immediately... Continue Reading →

You are safe…

The other day I read the funniest tweet ever... “been quarantined with my wife for four weeks now. At this point, I have more risk of getting killed by her than by a crummy virus."  I laughed out loud and shared it with my friends and especially my husband. I couldn’t help but think how... Continue Reading →

A few questions…

Who will we be when all of this is said and done? An interesting season in our world.  Forcing us to look at each other and deal with our families, our finances, and our environment. Requiring us to pay attention to the details. I have pondered several questions and wanted to share them with you... Continue Reading →

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