Are you on pause?

What does waiting feel like to you? We wait in lines We wait in cars We wait in trains, buses, street corners We wait on decisions We wait on the news We wait on results We wait for breakfast, lunch, and dinner We wait for plans to be made Every moment of our day we … More Are you on pause?

A beautiful life…

He said, “we have a beautiful life….” I didn’t understand….until I did. All I knew was my heart was broken; how can that be called a beautiful life. I let the words settle until the realization of what he was saying became greater than my simple understanding. Our life is beautiful- Every test  Every trial … More A beautiful life…

Shards…

I often wondered how many of us are walking around with shards in our hearts that we simply can’t talk about because it just hurts too much. I understand that pain. I am learning to soften the scars left behind by the shards that ripped through my heart. I am processing the pain I have … More Shards…

I’m still brown.

I have come to realize that even if I met all of the markers of success, i.e., education, wealth,  and housing. I am still brown. I was raised in The Bronx, NY. Specifically, the Soundview Housing Projects. My mom was a dedicated homemaker, and my father a blue-collar worker.  I attended public schools. As an … More I’m still brown.

Lessons during Quarantine…

Letting go requires self-control. Read that again…slowly. By definition, self-control requires -restraint exercised over one’s own impulses, emotions, or desires. When we let something go, when we release control of all things, self-control must take front and center.  In our human nature, when we let things go, we panic, fear sets in, and we immediately … More Lessons during Quarantine…

You are safe…

The other day I read the funniest tweet ever… “been quarantined with my wife for four weeks now. At this point, I have more risk of getting killed by her than by a crummy virus.”  I laughed out loud and shared it with my friends and especially my husband. I couldn’t help but think how … More You are safe…

A few questions…

Who will we be when all of this is said and done? An interesting season in our world.  Forcing us to look at each other and deal with our families, our finances, and our environment. Requiring us to pay attention to the details. I have pondered several questions and wanted to share them with you … More A few questions…

Coincidence…I think not!

Coincidence – the occurrence of events that happen at the same time by accident but seem to have some connection. (Merriam-Webster) Have you ever thought and said to yourself, wow, that’s such a funny coincidence? Oh my goodness, how crazy is that? Or that can’t be possible? What are the chances? All comments that connect to what we believe … More Coincidence…I think not!

Now what…

Here it is –  16 months, of school, completed and now what? I found myself experiencing a real sense of anxiety. I normally am not one to get anxious.  I’m pretty laid back about things. I wait and pray and trust. Yet I found myself panicking and fretting and worrying about what is next?  What was … More Now what…

It’s the little things…that adds up!

Dearest Robert, Tomorrow, February 5th, we will celebrate our 26th wedding anniversary.  The moment we cried (well I think you cried more than I did) and said I do to each other. And with that being said I want to say the following… Thank you for asking me to be your wife. Thank you for … More It’s the little things…that adds up!

Where are the instructions…to parenting?

It was our recent trip to the country’s largest IKEA that prompted this blog! It was our first time walking through this monstrosity of a home goods store. We didn’t think we were going to buy anything, we just wanted to walk around, but we grabbed a bag. By the time we got to the … More Where are the instructions…to parenting?