Several days ago I was asked to join some girlfriends on Zoom to “just talk” and I took a hard pass. I thought I’d never say this, but I am officially experiencing digital fatigue. Everything that I must access is currently found on the Information Highway otherwise known as the Internet. Internet use to be … More Digital Fatigue…
During this physical distancing time, I have re-organized my closets, my dresser, the kitchen cabinets, my office desk, and the bookshelves. I have sorted in stacks of what I will keep, donate, and throw away. So it occurred to me, what in my relationships do I need to re-organize? How am I relating to the … More A Seat at my table…
Honestly, how did we get to the beginning of the end of this year!!! It’s around this time that I always sit and reflect on this past year. The ups, the downs. The dreams realized. The hopes deferred. The goals checked off. The addition of new goals. The losses and the gains. This year came … More How did we get here so fast?
Your immediate response may be, I am a participant? It’s my life I have to do me! What kind of question is that? Well, after several interesting conversations I concluded that some folks are spectators in their own lives. They don’t participate. They just do just enough to get through the day and meet their … More Are you a spectator or participant….in your life?
I sat and cried. I thought I was okay, but I wasn’t. The night before, I was taking my evening stroll and lectured my husband, that if anything should come back, that’s questionable, I didn’t want anyone to overact. That if my tests were to prove something malignant, I wanted everyone to be strong. Yet, … More I needed it to be a cold blue…
Depression: “feelings of severe despondency and dejection.” I was depressed, and I didn’t even know it. I never liked the word “depressed.” I said I was at peace, but I was actually numb – The hurt was so grave I didn’t know what else to do but to mask it with what I called peace, … More Take off the mask…
These past few weeks I have reflected deeply on one simple theme – Am I living ready? It seems we live ready for the next job, the next relationship, the next opportunity to seize the moment. We want to take on the world, become the next big star, influencer, motivator. We live ready to … More Living Ready…
We met 25 years ago. I was broken, and he was whole. We married and built a life together that was nothing but unconventional. Through it all he is consistent. His character is consistent His temper is consistent His commitment to our family is consistent When we met, I lived in New York City, … More The Measure of a Man
So! It’s my birthday! Yup, that time again to reflect! Shed some tears, laugh out loud and walk in silence. Growing older has been quite the journey for me. Aging, well that is another matter altogether – Here are some of the lessons I’ve learned along the way. Listen Love Cry Laugh out Loud without … More This is me…
I have always felt proud of being a Latina. Never once was I embarrassed by my heritage. Until… Growing up in the projects among low-income Hispanics, African Americans, Irish, and Jewish families we really didn’t see or feel different. We were one community. We celebrated our color, hair (well on some days), our food, our … More Being Latina !!
It was a challenge, but I did it… I unplugged from EVERYTHING for seven whole days! And by everything I mean, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, WordPress, Talk Radio (in my car) and TV! Yup, even TV. It was the most rewarding and freeing feeling I have experienced in a long time. Think about it. Twitter … More You are challenged!
I currently am walking through the long corridor of Menopause! I’ve found a couple of doors along the way I refuse to open and others that I couldn’t help but open, walk in, take a seat and stay for a while! In those rooms, I’ve learned lessons that have shaken me to the core and … More Doors…
The year was 1966. On April 3, a baby girl was born on the Lower East Side, the firstborn for Maria. One month later on May 29 of the same year, another baby girl was born in the Bronx, the youngest child of Lydia. These two baby girls had no idea their lives would cross … More “Silent Witness”
A few weeks ago I received an email that kinda rattled my cage… It made me say “wait…what? Excuse me? Then I realized the person who wrote the email had an expectation of me that I never offered. They expected me to react and respond to their request in a way that I never intended. … More Expectations…
The first time I heard the word cancer I was a young child. I didn’t quite understand it, but I knew that it was a deadly disease and it brought a lot of pain to our family. It wouldn’t be the last time I would hear it… As life would have it, my first … More CANCER – It’s more than the C word…
Why do women struggle with self-care? Why do we think if we lay down, take a nap, close off the noise we are neglectful. Why do we think that if we tell our kids I need some time alone, we are bad moms? If we say to our friends I need some space, we are … More Just lay down!
When his name was called, we walked into the lab room. They asked my husband to hold Rob in his lap and hold down his little arms so that they could draw a significant amount of blood. My husband’s legs began to shake, and his tears just flowed as he watched Rob so quietly, without … More The Waiting Room (Part 2)
Disappointment: sadness, regret, dismay, sorrow; dispiritedness, despondency, distress, chagrin; disenchantment, disillusionment; displeasure, dissatisfaction, disgruntlement. Disappointments often come like a massive wave! Overwhelming and pulling you in many directions- She said what? He did what? They want what? How am I going to do this? That is a bold face lie! Why is this happening again? … More Disappointments…it’s physical.
Hmmm, this question was asked not too long ago and quite frankly if a woman is not working outside of their home the world does not recognize their worth… I’m incredibly busy…. I own and oversee two businesses. I host an internet talk show once a week. I write a blog once a week. I … More What does your wife do??…Are you kidding me!!
As I sat at my desk and reviewed my calendar, I immediately realized there are only less than two months left to what seemed like a year that would never end. I don’t know about you, but all the noise, politically, socially, atmospherically, emotionally, mentally, physically that we have endured is more than any one … More Only Two Months Left…